When so many women have vaginismus, why don't I hear them about it? Blog
Vaginismus, Pain during intercourse? No, you are certainly not alone!
If so many women suffer from it, why don't you hear about it?
How could I have known so many years ago that I certainly wasn’t alone?
Nobody talked about it. There was no internet. Oh, yes, there was a program on the radio. I still remember it exactly. I was in bed with the flu with the radio on. Suddenly I heard the word vaginismus. My doctor had already diagnosed vaginismus. I remember very well that I listened very quietly under the covers with the sound as softly as possible to what was said.
What have I remembered? I was not alone !!!
Now you can read or hear more about this subject. There are many websites with information. It is regularly written about in women's magazines. Books have been written about it. There is also more openness about this subject on TV.
But who do you know? Of all the women you've met, who ever said to you, "I have vaginismus" or "Intercourse is painful for me."
Research shows that about 1 in 10 women over the age of 25 experience occasional, regular, or always pain during intercourse. For women under the age of 25, this is 1 in 2. Shockingly high numbers, right?
Therefore it is certain that you know one or more women who suffer from this.
Are you one of them?
Of all the women you know, who will be affected?
Do you dare to discuss the topic?
What would happen if intimacy, sensuality and sexuality were discussed openly and respectfully? When you share your experiences with friends? That you share your wishes and desires, what you have experienced as pleasant and what absolutely not and why.
How different would our sex life be? What would the rates of women with vaginismus and / or pain during intercourse be? How many more women could enjoy their sex life?
My friend and I cried and laughed, usually in the sauna. She wanted to answer all my questions. I received detailed explanations and tips from her. Our openness about this has enabled me to overcome my vaginismus. I will always be grateful to her for this.
Jacqueline van de Bilt, Alphen aan den Rijn The Netherlands (+31) (0)6-49088912 firstname.lastname@example.org