Enjoyable intercourse, with small appropriate steps it will be possible Blog

​Hope, confidence and action through appropriate steps

• How do you determine the steps to overcome your vaginismus?
• How often have these steps been unsuccessful?

"I've tried everything." "I really did my best." "It just won't work."

Depressed, Ria sits across from me during the first  appointment 
When I ask what she tried, I immediately know what the problem is.
Ria wanted too soon, too much.

​It often surprises the women who come to me for coaching with vaginismus and pain during intercourse, that they dare to ask all their questions in detail. They are relieved when they hear my specific questions, answers, practical explanations and tips.

"Why has no one told me this before?" Ria asks, frustrated. "I now understand why it didn't work out."

Ria isn't alone.
I often hear this when I explain that it is important to take appropriate small steps.
Steps where you feel that you dare to- and can do them. That you know how in detail. Or rather that you are also curious about the outcome.

• How can you expect yourself to succeed if you don’t know exactly how?
• How can you expect yourself to succeed if everything in you says you don't dare?

It is then logical that a step fails or your fear or resistance is so great that you keep putting it off.

I hear the great results of taking appropriate steps every day.

What are you afraid of?
What knowledge are you missing?
What do you need to take a step?
What would be your appropriate first step?

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